How did we get to where we are today? For many of us the road has taken many turns but began with what we inherited through genetics and early life conditioning. It is called nature and nurture. Genetics are the traits we are born with. Research shows that some genes can go back centuries and can be passed on to generations from family members we may have never met or known. Our early life conditioning is what we have been taught by others (parents, teachers, coaches, people we admire), learned from observing others, believe deeply, developed from life experience, or have learned from media, among other things. It has helped us to develop our customs, beliefs, and philosophies about life. It is the environment that shaped us. It is the way we have been conditioned by family and culture, neighborhoods, schools and institution, and even ourselves. Socialization and conditioning teaches us how to act within a certain culture and shapes our views of race, the opposite sex, male/female roles, crime, employment, potential for success, and EVERY view of life, including the way we eat and our approach to exercise. These factors include:

  1. Attachment to parents  
  2. Peer Pressure
  3. Abandonment (also single parent)               
  4. Abuse  
  5. Prejudices
  6. Attitudes
  7. Self-esteem
  8. Prejudices
  9. Work Beliefs
  10. Language
  11. Abuse
  12. Religion
  13. Relationships
  14. Institutions (Schools too)
  15. Education Peer 
  16. Success/failure principles
  17. False glorification
  18. Self-esteem
  19. Anger toward authority     
  20. Relationships Prejudice                                                                                                                            

Scientific research has shown that being exposed to things both good and bad early in life is HUGE in our personal development and our belief system (National Center for Infants, Toddlers, and Children, 2009). Many of us have been conditioned to eat in a certain way (we must eat everything on our plate), react in a certain way (I am being treated unfairly because of who I am or where I am from), or believe in a certain way about ourselves (I am limited in what I can do in life because of my family, neighborhood, ethnic background, cultural or racial heritage). It is VERY TRUE that some of us may start with a disadvantage in life. In a nutshell, it is no wonder that many of us have become the way we are today. For some, it is all that we know. Fortunately for us there are examples of individuals who have overcome the EXACT problem you are facing and been faced with the same disadvantages as you are encountering.  How were they able to enact change and how can we create the transformation we seek? The answer—the same way we learned it. We just have to learn a different way to believe. We must change our core beliefs and the environment that we place ourselves in and what we place into ourselves. But what does that mean? Continuing to place ourselves in the same environments, relationships, and situations will only slow the change process. No duh right? Then why do we continue to engage in this? Because it is easier for most people to continue to react, behave, think, and continue on the same path that has brought them to where they are today, whether successful or not. It is hard to change the way we react, behave, and think but it will be a crucial component to the change process that you desire. “You are the company you keep” was no fluke.

Today is no different. Whether you are aware of it or not, your belief systems impact every facet of your life, especially the way you treat your health, manage stress, and live day to day. In the coming days, I am going to share with you how you may have been conditioned in your life, genetically and socially, and provide you evidence based tips on how to change or manage your lifelong conditioning. This is so important for many of us to learn to manage. BE YOUR OWN MIRACLE!


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