Many of us feel all alone in this world and with nowhere to turn. As an entrepreneur with my own vision, a step-dad, and follower of Christ I often feel alone in many environments. Recent research is showing that loneliness is as hard on the body as smoking. Loneliness is a cause of depression which we know is not healthy if we struggle a lot with it. While I value my alone time, when it becomes loneliness it becomes depressing and unhealthy. So what does one do when they are lonely, depressed and want to feel better? Here are a few things that I have found through both research and experience that I hope helps you.
- Create a life flow. There is rarely anyone who can have someone around them 24 hours a day. During those times of day when you know you will be alone, INTENTIONALLY plan an activity that you enjoy and brings fulfillment. I know people who do artistic projects, collect coins, write, or build things. Being creative is both good for your health and happiness. Find yours.
- Serve others who may be suffering. Helping others who are struggling with something is one of the best ways to get out of our own heads. It could be volunteering at a senior citizen facility, animal rescue, residential treatment center for addiction, or shelter for abuse victims. There are limitless opportunities to help others. Find your way to do so.
- Exercise. Movement is vital to our brain function, overall well-being, and happiness. If you can find a gym, exercise group, or running/walking friends, that is best. 90% of the people in a gym are friendly and great to be around. I have made some amazing friends belonging to a gym. If you cannot join a gym or do not have others to exercise with, exercise anyway. Put on some happy music and move for about 30 minutes. Give energy only to exercise and you will feel better afterwards. It works every time.
- Value time with others. On those occasions when you do have time to spend with others, enjoy every minute of it. Listen to the other person to listen, not to respond. Be fully engaged and turn off electronics. Express to them how much you valued the time with them and look forward to it again.
The key to all of this is self awareness and the knowledge that you struggle with depression when alone at times. The need to manage the depression with healthier options cannot be overstated and is vital to your health. Get professional help as well and talk to someone if necessary. Be alone no more and lonely. BE YOUR OWN MIRACLE!